The world changes, the way we see the world changes – and this happens to everyone around us. We talk about growing apart from or growing beyond people – a view of the world that centers on the self – selfish? No. In a world where we act and react to our environment, an argument can be made that we are the most constant thing that we know even as we ourselves are not constant.

And we redefine. When people treat us well, we gravitate to them, when they treat us poorly, we are repulsed – and the same is true of how we treat people and how they react. Some people who are unhealthy do the opposite, some put up with poor treatment because they do not think they deserve better – and, hopefully, one day they figure that out. And we redefine.

And we redefine.